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Ask Sensei: Cornered in the Parking Garage?
Published on October 20, 2025
Sensei,
I need to ask if I overreacted because I haven’t slept properly in three days. I work late downtown, and by 8 PM the garage is usually a ghost town. It always puts me on edge, but Tuesday was different.
When I walked up to my car, there was a beat-up, windowless van parked right on the line, inches from my driver’s side door. It was deliberate. There were hundreds of empty spots.
My stomach just dropped. I froze. Everything in me screamed “NO,” but then my brain started making excuses. “Don’t be paranoid,” I told myself. “Don’t be that hysterical person who calls security over a bad parking job.” I felt stupid for even being scared.
So, against my better judgment, I unlocked the passenger side and climbed over the center console. It was awkward and I felt trapped. Just as I squeezed into the driver’s seat, the side door of that van slammed open. It was so loud it echoed.
There was a man just sitting there on the floor of the van, staring right at me. He wasn’t doing anything illegal. He just smiled—this calm, creepy smile—and said, “Hey there.”
I panicked. I didn’t think, I just jammed the key in and peeled out of there. I was shaking so hard I had to pull over blocks away just to breathe. Now I feel like a coward. I ran away from a guy who just said hello. Did I make a fool of myself? What should I have done?
— Shaken on the Night Shift
Sensei’s Response:
Shaken,
Please stop. Take a breath. Now, I want you to listen to me very carefully: You are not a coward. You are alive. You are safe.
That shame you feel? That voice telling you that you were “hysterical” or “paranoid”? That is social conditioning trying to override your survival instinct. It is a dangerous lie. You experienced a predatory test, and your biological intuition passed it with flying colors. You didn’t “run away” from a polite conversation; you extracted yourself from an ambush. You did exactly what you needed to do.
Let’s deconstruct this so you can silence that doubt and understand the mechanics of what actually happened.
The Trap (The Setup)
You mentioned the van was parked deliberately close in an empty garage. This isn’t poor etiquette; it is tactical geometry. By blocking your primary entry, he forced you into a behavior that he could predict. He engineered a situation where you would be off-balance, distracted, and enclosed in a space (your own car) where you had limited mobility. Your “gut feeling” wasn’t paranoia; it was pattern recognition.
The Correction: The moment you saw that vehicle blocking your door, your instincts fired. Next time, honor them immediately. Do not approach the car. Do not worry about being “polite” or “inconveniencing” security. Turn around, walk back to the building, and call security or the police. Let them investigate the bad parking job. That is their function. Your function is to go home safe.
The Vulnerability (The Climb)
Climbing over the console put you in a precarious position. For those few seconds, you were blind to your surroundings and physically restricted. If he had acted then, you would have had zero options for defense. This is the “Gap” we talk about in the mentorship—the space between recognizing a threat and acting on it. We want to close that gap, not widen it by putting ourselves in a box.
The Test (The Smile)
The door opening and the greeting (“Hey there”) was an interview. He was testing your compliance. He wanted to see if you would freeze, if you would roll down the window to engage, or if you would prioritize social niceties over your own safety. He was looking for a victim who was afraid to be rude.
Your Response: You failed his interview beautifully. You didn’t engage. You didn’t negotiate. You left. Speed and distance are the ultimate countermeasures. Driving away wasn’t cowardice; it was a high-level strategic victory. You denied him the two things he needed: your attention and your proximity.
Forgive yourself for the fear. The shaking is just chemistry—adrenaline leaving the body. It means your system worked. You listened to the alarm, however late, and you acted. Trust that inner voice. It is the most powerful guardian you will ever have.